What if your Husband wants you to Stay Home? - Consider Your Options Carefully
April 2, 2007
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Most families need two incomes to survive. Wives have come out of the home and found their niche in the working world. Women have found that they can be happy making money and pursuing a career. But, what if your husband wants you to stay at home? This article is for women who are facing this situation in their married life and for those who are thinking about getting married but never thought to ask this question of their potential spouse.
Maybe you’ve just had a baby and are preparing to return to work. Or maybe, now that you are married, your husband believes that he should be the sole breadwinner. The first thing not to do is overreact. Hear him out. Let him give his reasons for wanting you to leave the workforce and stay at home. Some men were raised with their mother being the parent that was always there waiting for them when they arrived home from school. Dinner was on the table promptly at five o’clock and bedtime included a story from mom.
In a marriage, both partners have a say in how the home is to be run. Before any major decision is made that will affect your finances and the dynamic of the family, a discussion is warranted. Explain to your husband the reasons you have for wanting to keep your job. Try to reach a compromise. Working part-time may be an option that you would be willing to accept. Check with your employer to see if your position can be managed from home on a full-time basis.
In order to know what options you have, both marriage partners must communicate honestly with each other. If the idea of staying at home thrills you, both of you still need to communicate your expectations. You may think that staying at home means looking after the kids. Your husband may believe that staying at home means that you are responsible for the children and the housework including dinner. In these scenarios, the husband usually handles any yard work, but leaves the inside jobs to his wife. This arrangement may or may not sit well with you.
If your husband wants you to stay at home, sit down and talk about it. Don’t automatically think that it is a decision that is set in stone. You won’t know what type of agreement you both can come to for the good of the family if you don’t communicate.
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[...] I started staying at home when I was around 6 mos pregnant with our first son. My husband and I discussed this prior to getting married as well. I had always wanted to stay at home with my kids since my mom did. He also likes the idea. [...]