This is a guest post from one of our Expert Moms, Aurelia Williams. Aurelia is a Life Coach who loves working with moms.
When it comes to parenting there are so many ways to approach it and there is never a ‘one size fits all’ tactic that all parents can take. What works for one parent may not work for another but there is one thing that does remain true across the board. All children must be given the tools that they need in order deal
with their problems with confidence!
Too often moms step in and fight all of the battles for their children. Well, I am here to say – “Mom’s, stop fighting all of your kid’s battles — It’s going to turn them into whiny, weak adults”!!
Let’s be honest, who likes whiny and weak adults? I’ve witnessed this scenario time and time again. Before the child can even digest what the problem is, here comes mom, swooping in and scooping her child up under her wings and fixing all of their problems. All this does is make the child weak and insecure in their ability to stand up for themselves.
It is important to know when and how to step into or step back from the battles our kids face.
As a parent, it is our job to help our children navigate though life and that means we must teach them how to handle problems, how to stand up for themselves and how to be assertive. If we don’t teach them these vital lessons, they will become a TARGET for others to walk on, pick on and take advantage of because others will know that they are weak.
Here are a few steps you can take to help strengthen your child:
1. Encourage your child to always share their feelings with you.
This will establish an open line of communication. You can then talk to your child about concerns he or she may have and help to build their ‘inner strength’ so that when problems do occur, they can fall back on what they have been taught.
2. Praise your child when you notice that they are using their independence!
If you witness your child take initiative to try to solve a problem, make note of it verbally. This works wonders to boost up their confidence.
3. Be honest with your child about the hard issues!
Talk to your child about peer pressure and help them to come up with ways to combat it. Use real life examples and role play in order to get the point across.
4. Stop Fighting ALL of their battles!
Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying to just throw your child into the middle of a war without any weapons. Moms, you must start to equip your child with the tools that they need to deal with the problems of today.
This issue of fighting your child’s battle is a serious one because it leaves them feeling helpless as a child and doesn’t prepare them for the bigger issues that they will face as they grow up. I am so passionate about this message and I truly want to help you help your child to be strong and confident.
I’ve organized a totally free coaching class where I will share strategies with you that will help you know when and how to step into or step back from the battles your kids face. It is totally free and is chock full of useful information that you can use immediately! Sign up and perhaps there will be just one less whining adult in the world because of it.