That’s the “my boys are teens & don’t need me” blues. Well they need the van keys, laundry washed, money for movie tickets, but no more snuggled up movie nights. No more magic mom powers that can make everything all better.
Heartaches & Heartbreaks
When the boys each had their first break up with a girl they really liked, I couldn’t fix it. It’s my job, I’m the mom, I fix it. Sigh. Things are rolling faster than my heart can keep up with. Their hearts break, mine aches. Nobody wins.
Trying to fill the hole
I’ve reached an age where my uterus agrees with my head (and my husband) on no more babies, so now what. With 2 cats & a sassy dog the urge to bring home small fuzzy things is out, too.
I’ve taken to blogging with a vengeance and I’m going back to school, but that doesn’t fill the hole. Here are the things I’m going to look into.
Sponsoring a child through Compassion. They work in South America, Asia, Africa, Central America, and the Caribbean in poor neighborhoods to give children a fighting chance at a future.
I’m looking into volunteering at a mother & children’s shelter. Maybe a food bank or soup kitchen.
Let me know what you think. What did you do when your nest started to feel a little too empty?
I can only imagine how hard it must be to have your kids grow up and stop needing you. They do need you, just in a different way. They need to know you’ll always be a soft place to land, and I’m sure they know it. Even if they don’t say it.
I hear you on doing community service when you’re feeling “empty”. Back in December, I started a food drive in my neighborhood. I remember how fun it was to get volunteers to help me. They enjoyed bringing their kids along to pick up donations, and I met so many people organizing the drive that I wouldn’t have met before.
Giving always makes you feel better. Funny how that is. Find a pal to do community service with you. It makes it that much more rewarding. HUGS!