Dealing with Relatives Who Disagree with Your Parenting Choices

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This article was written by Guest Blogger Alice Seba of Schmoozins.

At some point or another, as a mom, you will come into contact with someone who doesn’t agree with your parenting choices. Although it can be a bit upsetting to a new parent, those of us who have had more than one child are usually pretty used to it after awhile.

While the majority of people probably won’t say anything directly to you as far as their opposing views,
there are others who will make it known in subtle and sometimes roundabout ways. But, what do you do when that someone is your own relative? Here are some tips to help you deal with relatives who may disagree with your parenting style.

Why Do They Disagree Anyway?

Many times your relatives disagree with something you do or don’t do as a parent because they don’t understand why you chose the route of parenting you do. If this is the case in your family, take the time to listen to their concerns first. Then, be sure to voice yours as well. You might be surprised at how they will come around.

Point Out Facts & Research

More than likely if the issue at hand is one that is extremely important or is something different from what your parent’s chose when you were a child, you’ve done your research and have facts to back up your decision. Don’t be afraid to point them out to your relatives. They just might not know the newest information about a subject.

Agree to Disagree

Sometimes people just can’t see eye to eye on a subject, especially when both parties feel strongly about something. If this is the case in your family, take the time to listen to one another’s thoughts and concerns.

If, after exhausting all other options, you find they still differ strongly in their opinion and refuse to agree to disagree, kindly remind them that you are the parent of your child and you only have his or her best interest at heart. Let them know that you have no intention of arguing about the subject any further. You understand why they feel the way they do, but you’ve chosen a parenting style that works for you and your children and you think you’ll stick with it.

About the Author: Alice Seba is the Schmoozer in Chief at Schmoozins, the online magazine that gives all women a voice. Visit us for more family and parenting tips.

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