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Need An Original Gift? Make an Alphabet Gift Basket

In our family, birthdays have always been a special occasion for my mother. She enjoys giving presents, but she loves opening them even more, especially presents that are thoughtful and unique.

This year we wanted to do something different to make her birthday memorable. The whole family chipped in to prove that the alphabet could be just as much fun, even for someone who long ago left school and has long mastered the art of reading. Using the alphabet as our guide, we made up a gift basket of 25 small and one big present – all in all, one present for each letter of the alphabet.

We added to the cheer by making her “work” for each present. She had to solve a riddle for each letter of the alphabet. An example of one of the riddles is the one we used for the jelly: “Add boiling water and cold temperature to turn this powder into a sweet temptation.”

Below is the list of gifts we packed into the alphabet basket…
A: Aromatherapy oil.
B: Bath salts.
C: A fragrant candle.
D: A recipe for a date pudding.
E: Easter egg, as her birthday was close to the Easter weekend.
F: Fizz balls for a nice and relaxing bath.
G: A small gift voucher for her favorite store.
H: A tube of hand cream.
I: An invitation to a coffee date.
J: A packet of jelly.
K: A loving kiss from my father.
L: A raspberry flavored lollipop.
M: Milk chocolates, one of her strong favorites.
N: A floral nightie for the cold winter.
O: An orange.
P: A packet of popcorn.
Q: A quiz cut from an old magazine.
R: One red rose.
S: Scented body spray.
T: Travelling rug to keep her warm while watching television.
U: Unlimited hugs.
V: A vitamin enriched drink.
W: The big one, which was a watch.
X: An old Xmas card from one of her sisters.
Y: A South African magazine called “Your Family.”
Z: A plastic zebra toy.

This was the best present ever! My mother, who also happens to be a sentimental person, cherished the notes with the riddles on for many days. She will always remember her alphabet gift basket.

I am sure that, upon receiving such a special gift, your mother (or grandmother) will feel just as loved.

Article by: Benetta Strydom is the owner of Crafter’s World Online.

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7 Tips For the Unoffical Leader In You

A leader can take many forms in many different business situations, often when a person isn’t even “the Boss”. If you find yourself in a group with a deadline with no leader in sight, you may have to be the one to take charge. When this happens, what should you do and NOT do?

When people normally think of a leader in business they think of the boss, but being a leader doesn’t require a fancy title, or even official recognition. Leadership simply needs one person to stand up, take charge, and achieve the goal. In an ad hoc or temporary group, others might not see someone as the leader, but that one person could still make sure the group operates as a team and accomplishes their goal.

How can someone who has not been anointed or appointed accomplish this? Here are some tips for those that find themselves in an unofficial leadership role.

Tread Lightly
The leader does not need to be the smartest – or the fastest, or best looking. It could be anyone, but since it’s you standing up to be the unofficial leader, realize that others in the group may not agree. Simply proclaiming that you are in charge will cause more harm than good. Subtly is your best friend in the beginning of the transition from mob to team. Often, a leader can be created in the other’s eyes by simply being the first one to say, “Ok, so what do we do first?”

Crawl Then Run
The first hurdle for an unofficial leader is to get the group talking. What are their ideas? What do they think is the best course to take? Of course if everyone agrees on one direction, then this stage is done, but that rarely happens. Most often there will be two different schools of thought. The leader should not take sides, but encourage discussion of opposing viewpoints and plans. Stay above the arguments to mediate and stimulate the flow of ideas. Soon, one course will become clear, or at least more feasible than the other. When this happens, you may be surprised to see everyone looking at you to give the final judgment on what to do. Already, you have become the lead person to go to in their subconscious minds.

Group Triage
An important step for a leader is to recognize all the various tasks that need to be done to accomplish the goal. Who is best at what? Who would be most effective where? Hopefully you will already know, but most of the time you will need to find out. So ask what they would be best at within the available tasks to accomplish? You’ll get honest answers, but sometimes the answer is not what they are best at, but what parts of the work they would rather do. If they are the only one to volunteer for a certain task, let them have it. If two or more chime in, then prompt them to discuss among themselves who would be better suited. If they figure it out, great, but usually they will look to you to make the final decision again. Pay attention to their arguments and pick the best one for the job.

Not an Island
Realize that you don’t have to come up with a plan or best course of action all by yourself. You just have to pick the direction and get your people there. Recognize the best plan, even if it isn’t your own. Pay attention to complaints, and problems, but make sure to spot your own flaws as well. For the benefit of the team, volunteer for the job you are best suited for, even if it is one you don’t want to do. Remember that it is not about you being a leader, but your team accomplishing their goal and you are but one part of that team.

Not Omnipotent
Since you have no official power, there is nothing to back you up. You can’t hire, fire, or discipline anyone, so why should they listen to you? Remember, you will earn your leader position by what you do, not who you are. Since being a leader is not about ordering people around, you will spend most of your time suggesting the best possible course, or coaxing the others in the right direction. Your best course is to get your people to do what they need to do without them realizing you’ve done anything.

Motivate
A group with clearly defined capabilities to match all the tasks at hand with an embraced purpose and definitive goal is ideal. That almost never happens in the real world unfortunately, but then if it did, the real world wouldn’t need leaders. Once your team is all facing the same way, you will probably find that some need to be moving faster than the others. An unofficial timeline, with specific deadlines is a nice subtle way to show where each person is at and where they should be. A quiet, private, chat with the problem group member might help as well, but make sure your persona is that of a fellow group member worried about the project and their own part in it, NOT as the unofficial leader. Group cheers and celebrations when one person or another accomplishes their part will help get the lagging member moving. Remember, “problems in private, praise in public.”

Following Your Lead
Nothing gets a bunch of people moving faster than someone heading off in the right direction. Ideally, the team moves forward together, but there’s almost always a winding up period. Set the example by attacking your part with enthusiasm, professionalism, and vigor. If they see you working hard, helping others, and generally doing everything you can to get the team to its goal, then they will follow suit. They will notice if you are cheerfully doing a job they know you don’t want to do. They will notice you listening to other team members, taking advice, and following directions. It will motivate them to do their part for the team and add to your role as unofficial leader.

The Good Follower
There is an ancient saying: “A good leader is a good follower.” This would be a simple paradox if not for the fact that most aspects of a leader involve following others. The leader will follow the best path for the team to take. The leader will follow the advice and direction of those in the team if they are better than the leader’s own. The leader must follow the leader’s own examples. If you look closely at the tips above, you’ll notice that each one requires the participation of the others in the team. A leader cannot lead without people to follow, but a leader can’t move forward without following the team.

Leading people is a privilege and an honor; both not to be abused. Being a leader makes you special, but you are not special because you are a leader. A leader is just a part of a team that together is working towards a goal. Accomplishing the goal… that’s the whole point to being a leader. It is not about you, your status, recognition, or the fancy title. It’s about making things happen. But, if you make things happen, then your status will rise, you will gain recognition, and, yes, get that fancy title. Always remember though, you can’t do it alone.

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Amy Linley gives practical and usable advice regarding communication and meetings at AccuConference. Find out more about our conference call, web conferencing and video conferencing services from AccuConference.

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How To Start Homeschooling?

Choosing to homeschool your child is not an easy decision. There are many considerations to keep mind when deciding to go the homeschool route.

So how do you get started after you have made the decision to go homeschooling?

Here are the list of things you might want to find out and prepare before even starting your first homeschooling session.

1) Homeschooling Requirements. Each state in the US has their own homeschooling requirements. So be sure to check if you are qualified to conduct homeschooling in your local area. Most homeschooling requirements are pretty simple so it should not be a problem.

2) Homeschooling Support Groups. It is not a requirement to join a homeschooling support group but it definitely will be very helpful to get in touch with parents who are also homeschooling in your local neighbourhood. A support group can provide support and advise especially when you are just starting out. Some homeschooling support groups also have regular educational trips and activities such as to the zoo, museums and libraries etc.

3) Prepare The Home Environment. You will probably need to make some physical rearrangement of your home to cater an area for homeschooling. You also need to purchase the study materials such as stationary, whiteboard etc.

4) A Homeschooling Schedule. You will need to come up with a study schedule for each day’s lessons, games etc. It is also good to come up with a book keeping system to keep track of the tasks that have been completed. In some states, this is also a requirement.

5) Homeschooling Curriculum. You need to select the method of homeschooling for your child. This is based on the child’s learning aptitude and his/her learning ability. Popular methods are Montessori, classic and charlotte mason homeschooling.

As you can see, there is quite a lot of work and planning involved before starting homeschooling. That is why joining a homeschooling support group can help you so much if you do not know some of the points above.

About the Author: Ricky Lim runs a homeschooling reviews site. Visit his site for more homeschooling information such as Montessori Homeschooling and homeschooling cost.

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Why You Can’t Lose Weight: Seven Blocks to Successful Weight Loss and How to Overcome Them

If you’re like me, you’d sooner write a nutrition book than follow one! If you’ve read at least one nutrition or diet book in your lifetime, then you probably know what to eat. You may even have it down to a science: a cup of this, four ounces of that, two tablespoons of this, and so on. Yet when you really want to eat, you’re sitting down on the couch with a bag or box, not your measuring cup.

My extra fifty extra pounds wasn’t caused by lack of nutritional know-how, it was caused by uncontrollable emotional eating. You see, we don’t overeat simply because we love food – if only it were that simple; we overeat and snack on unhealthy foods out of emotional impulse. Successful weight loss is possible only when we identify what emotional function overeating is playing and take action to fill our needs in healthier ways. I have identified what I believe are the seven primary emotional blocks to lasting weight loss and how to overcome them.

1. The Stress Effect
The number one cause of compulsive eating is stress. When our energy is low from overactivity and burnout, we use excess food to power us through. Eating relaxes us—temporarily.
Often, our stress is self-created; we subconsciously seek validation from our professional, social, and family obligations. Are you aiming to please at the expense of your own health?
Try this: Adopt a meditation or yoga practice and embrace the silence; allow peace to be your new craving, instead of approval and food. For “easy-to-do” meditation, visit http://www.MeditationYouCanDo.com.

2. The Great Escape
Overeating dulls our emotions. The more we eat, the further away our troubles seem to be. Eating starch and sugar causes a secretion of serotonin in our systems, creating a feeling of euphoria and a numbing of our senses. The problem is that the further we escape in food, the harder life becomes; our problems pile up, and our ability to cope diminishes.
Try this: Ask for help from a friend, coach, counselor, or family member to face difficult issues. The sooner you face them, the sooner you’ll solve them.

3. Self-Protection Plan
Studies prove that there is a very strong link between obesity and experiences of early childhood sexual abuse. The fact is that when our bodies are violated in any way, it is natural to want to protect ourselves from further harm. Maintaining a large (or underweight) body can also be an unconscious attempt to shut down our sexuality and keep our own sexual impulses in check. We not only construct a physical prison with the intention of keeping others out, but also to trap ourselves in.
Try this: Begin exploring your relationship with your body and your sexuality. Join a supportive dance or exercise group and seek assistance from friends, a coach, or a counselor.

4. Buried Alive!
We use food as a pillow to muffle our inner voices. We all have that still, small voice (God, Spirit, Holy Spirit, conscience, intuition) inside, directing and protecting us. When we listen to it, our lives are relatively smooth and orderly. When we deny it and act from our ego mind, we create chaos. We often bury this voice to avoid the responsibility of following its guidance.
Try this: Affirm daily: “I welcome, embrace, and eagerly follow my inner voice, for this brings me energy, protection, and unlimited good!”

5. Self-Sabotage Solution
Gaining weight and living in a body we cannot stand erodes our self-esteem and self-confidence. We often have a deep-seated belief that we are bad and subconsciously take perverse pleasure in our food lashings. We easily feel guilt for things we have thought, said, and done, and instead of addressing these issues directly, we seek to deliver our own punishment by overeating and gaining weight.
Try this: Start today to forgive yourself for all that you perceive you’ve done wrong. Next, when you say or do something that offends or if you make a mistake, apologize and move on.

6. Self-Care Crisis
Emotional eaters take better care of others than themselves. But if you don’t take care of yourself, no one else will or can. Eating right is about self-care, not self-control. If you don’t make self-respecting choices in your life, you won’t be able to make self-respecting choices when it’s time to eat.
Try this: Spend the evening fixing and savoring a fresh, organic meal at home. Relax, and enjoy the experience!

7. Decrease the Deficit
Most compulsive eaters are compulsive doers. Yet we pay dearly for our “super powers”. At the end of a hard day, we refuel with a binge, telling ourselves that after all we’ve accomplished, we deserve it. The fact is that we create a deficit when we try to do more than our bodies and minds can reasonably do in a day. If we have to compensate for all do we by overeating, we are doing too much.
Try this: Identify one activity a week you can cancel or pass to someone else. Everything will get done without your being there to do it.

If you want real answers as to your weight problem, look within. It’s not because you have the wrong diet, running shoes, or exercise equipment; the food you crave is filling an emotional need that must be addressed and healed in order to have lasting success. When you identify and heal these mechanisms your entire life changes, and with it – the number on the scale.

Article by: Tricia Greaves is the founder of Be Totally Free!, which helps people to overcome eating disorders, emotional eating, dieting and weight loss and all addictions. She is a contributing author of “101 Great Ways to Improve Your Health” and “Thank God I Was Fat”. Tricia has been featured on TV and radio shows including K-USI San Diego, K-EARTH, and WOR.

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